Its really been a hardwork in last few weeks to keep myself going ! Though it has been a very successful month personally, it hasn't been an easy one with my Heart and mind :( Guess what ??? I have been fighting a lot with my best friends for quite a few times :( Sometimes it looks ugly, sometimes it look like I could do no wrong , but few things are seriously eating up my time and my thoughts :(
After all, if you could avoid the first fight then you could avoid all the remaining ! More likely, it is just the ego that gives a bruise to heart and start the feel to fight. It makes us forget how good we are and the best abilities we have. We forget the fact that People loved us because we looked distinct from the rest. But being immature and standing up to argue just says We just belong to the group who has no heart nor no mind.
It is just that I have been doing all this in last few days made me write this and advice myself !
There is one thought that always flashes my mind. It says You earn each and every Person in your Life and they are the only savings you will take with you forever.. Never miss a Person who has once walked into your Life !
A sparkling thought i read "Every Person who walks into your life has a story to tell and a lesson to teach". You can never blame your friend if you miss him/her. It just says you are so irresponsible in handling them. You cannot make someone love you. But, you can make someone not to hate you.
But saying all that, it seriously requires a big heart and lot of patience. Someone will be spending lot of time with you but suddenly you realize the amount of time gets reduced with each passing day. This could seriously hurt. The reaction will eventually end up in a argument. This causes the first strain. But we forget to realize that raising an argument here will further reduce the time spent with us ! It makes the other person more independent and gives them a feel that you are going to piss them off. so, they feel better not to talk and get hurt !
Any argument by being inside a relationship will only cause negative impact !
I could easily pen it here. But, Momentary reactions are different. You would shout because you loved them so much. But the other person would think that you don't love them anymore.
The next better thing that could frustrate a Person is response time. You give your Friend a call. Its on waiting. You believe they will call you back. But, not so and after sometime you give a call. This time its not on waiting and they pick it. First question that could start the strain is "why didn't you call me???? :(" any answer from the other end would piss us off bcoz we will not believe that. We just feel we lost our importance here ! But yes, they could really be busy but still they could have taken a minute to say that (They're busy and will call later). This little thing could have seriously lit a smile in any little heart ! So, Just respond and it could solve a thing before it starts :)
No Point in continuously blowing the horn, the other person has to move ! You can only clap with two hands !
The other big challenge in a relationship is who calls whom :) We eventually forget that, whoever calls, its we who are going to talk :) This challenge would never help a relationship !
This is really a comical strain ! Bcoz we would end up without talking! Neither of us will win and Both of us will lose :(
Certainly, If I look back at my Life and with some of the fights I had with my Friends, it seriously looks more ordinary. I feel like I could go back and correct all those little minutes :( I would have saved lot of People !
As of I know, Guys would never fight with guys , Girls would never fight with Girls :) at-least for the above said reasons :) It just happens in a Guy and girl friendships .. no not Love.. Love has much bigger problems to deal with :)
This blog could really be out of personal experience ! might look innocent :) But what I have learnt out of it is more virtue !
It is an easy thing to say a Good Bye ! (Forever - remember ppl will use this word as an adjective :)) But, if your Friendship has been an endearing and a true one, that Good bye would never allow you to sleep ! We will feel like getting up and talking to them the next morning ! Here is where Our Ego would stand up and say "Why should you??? :(" ! If you break that question and go ahead you would have saved a relationship !
Next big thing is , PATIENCE ! Never talk to that Person for the time you will feel like fighting with them ! Forget they existed in your Life ! Do something else ! Talk to rest of your Friends ! Once you gain your cool, talk to that Person and you will realize you are not fighting :) Never pester a Friend with too many calls for every couple of minutes. Hang out somewhere doing something when you realize someone is not responding (Jus like, I write this blog :p) . After sometime you will forget that they did not respond you ! You have lot of other things in Earth to Love and Enjoy ! Any good space will really keep the relationship healthy :)
You Love someone for their positives ! So, never mind if you find something negative in them ! Bcoz their positives still stay with them :) You can tell them that this is wrong, But Never push it on them :) You are not Father or Mother , You are a Friend ! Never try to play any other role, then you will miss your role as Friend ! You just keep loving them for the reasons you loved :)
If you really want someone to stay in your Life, You can do anything ! Never mind what they think about you ! Just keep Loving them ! Definitely, Love will feed and breed Love :)
There will really be more straining Phases ! But, after all the fight and argument, just keep talking :) Never decide to stop the interaction :)
This could be just another day in your Life, but Every Person (Friend) is precious :)
Yes ! There will be strain in relationships as they grow, that is when you have to work beyond your ability to keep it alive :) More than your own-self (Ego), People (Friends) are important !
You will not find the same Person (nt even a similar person) again on Earth bcoz God(s) doesn't lack creativity :)
Survive the tough times, it would end up opening more Happy and memorable moments for your Lifetime !
After all, if you could avoid the first fight then you could avoid all the remaining ! More likely, it is just the ego that gives a bruise to heart and start the feel to fight. It makes us forget how good we are and the best abilities we have. We forget the fact that People loved us because we looked distinct from the rest. But being immature and standing up to argue just says We just belong to the group who has no heart nor no mind.
It is just that I have been doing all this in last few days made me write this and advice myself !
There is one thought that always flashes my mind. It says You earn each and every Person in your Life and they are the only savings you will take with you forever.. Never miss a Person who has once walked into your Life !
A sparkling thought i read "Every Person who walks into your life has a story to tell and a lesson to teach". You can never blame your friend if you miss him/her. It just says you are so irresponsible in handling them. You cannot make someone love you. But, you can make someone not to hate you.
But saying all that, it seriously requires a big heart and lot of patience. Someone will be spending lot of time with you but suddenly you realize the amount of time gets reduced with each passing day. This could seriously hurt. The reaction will eventually end up in a argument. This causes the first strain. But we forget to realize that raising an argument here will further reduce the time spent with us ! It makes the other person more independent and gives them a feel that you are going to piss them off. so, they feel better not to talk and get hurt !
Any argument by being inside a relationship will only cause negative impact !
I could easily pen it here. But, Momentary reactions are different. You would shout because you loved them so much. But the other person would think that you don't love them anymore.
The next better thing that could frustrate a Person is response time. You give your Friend a call. Its on waiting. You believe they will call you back. But, not so and after sometime you give a call. This time its not on waiting and they pick it. First question that could start the strain is "why didn't you call me???? :(" any answer from the other end would piss us off bcoz we will not believe that. We just feel we lost our importance here ! But yes, they could really be busy but still they could have taken a minute to say that (They're busy and will call later). This little thing could have seriously lit a smile in any little heart ! So, Just respond and it could solve a thing before it starts :)
No Point in continuously blowing the horn, the other person has to move ! You can only clap with two hands !
The other big challenge in a relationship is who calls whom :) We eventually forget that, whoever calls, its we who are going to talk :) This challenge would never help a relationship !
This is really a comical strain ! Bcoz we would end up without talking! Neither of us will win and Both of us will lose :(
Certainly, If I look back at my Life and with some of the fights I had with my Friends, it seriously looks more ordinary. I feel like I could go back and correct all those little minutes :( I would have saved lot of People !
As of I know, Guys would never fight with guys , Girls would never fight with Girls :) at-least for the above said reasons :) It just happens in a Guy and girl friendships .. no not Love.. Love has much bigger problems to deal with :)
This blog could really be out of personal experience ! might look innocent :) But what I have learnt out of it is more virtue !
It is an easy thing to say a Good Bye ! (Forever - remember ppl will use this word as an adjective :)) But, if your Friendship has been an endearing and a true one, that Good bye would never allow you to sleep ! We will feel like getting up and talking to them the next morning ! Here is where Our Ego would stand up and say "Why should you??? :(" ! If you break that question and go ahead you would have saved a relationship !
Next big thing is , PATIENCE ! Never talk to that Person for the time you will feel like fighting with them ! Forget they existed in your Life ! Do something else ! Talk to rest of your Friends ! Once you gain your cool, talk to that Person and you will realize you are not fighting :) Never pester a Friend with too many calls for every couple of minutes. Hang out somewhere doing something when you realize someone is not responding (Jus like, I write this blog :p) . After sometime you will forget that they did not respond you ! You have lot of other things in Earth to Love and Enjoy ! Any good space will really keep the relationship healthy :)
You Love someone for their positives ! So, never mind if you find something negative in them ! Bcoz their positives still stay with them :) You can tell them that this is wrong, But Never push it on them :) You are not Father or Mother , You are a Friend ! Never try to play any other role, then you will miss your role as Friend ! You just keep loving them for the reasons you loved :)
If you really want someone to stay in your Life, You can do anything ! Never mind what they think about you ! Just keep Loving them ! Definitely, Love will feed and breed Love :)
There will really be more straining Phases ! But, after all the fight and argument, just keep talking :) Never decide to stop the interaction :)
This could be just another day in your Life, but Every Person (Friend) is precious :)
Yes ! There will be strain in relationships as they grow, that is when you have to work beyond your ability to keep it alive :) More than your own-self (Ego), People (Friends) are important !
You will not find the same Person (nt even a similar person) again on Earth bcoz God(s) doesn't lack creativity :)
Survive the tough times, it would end up opening more Happy and memorable moments for your Lifetime !
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